Here I am.. Waiting for my 2nd baby to come out.. 7 days to
go and I’m about to witness God’s wonderful creation coming out of my tummy
again. I was thinking- why didn’t I blog about this during my 1st pregnancy?
Why just now? Then I realized that even on this 2nd pregnancy with only 2 years
apart, I have experienced things that I haven’t during my 1st. I know very well
that I have read multiple books and articles about pregnancy- both me and my
hubby actually. Though we are aware of the weight gain, the change in the
appearance due to enlarged nose and bloated face, the possibility of stretch
marks, the sleepless nights and breathlessness, as some of the so-called
“normality in pregnancy”- Things become very different when you experience it
yourself at an intensity you could’ve not imagined. So let me share with you
some experiences that I have encountered during this new chapter in my life
that are both exciting and scary. :)
1. Pregnancy Acne
When I gave birth to my first born, the first thing I did
after losing weight was going back to my dermatologist. I was very happy with
the result until I got pregnant again. Oiliness and acne can destroy your mood
on a daily basis and can literally result to stress, especially on a job like
mine, where I meet up with clients and attend a lot of conferences. So I try to
google if this is normal as I have never experienced this during my first
pregnancy.
FACT: They said that most pregnant women experience acne as
the higher levels of hormones called Androgens prompt the sebaceous glands in
the skin to produce sebum (causing oiliness). The bigger sebaceous glands and
the excessive production of this sebum when combined with our skin cells,
blocks our pores that creates a ground for bacteria to multiply. Thus, the
inflamed skin erupts and produces acne.
SOLUTION: Aside from weeping and blaming hubby for my
pregnancy (joke!), I just dealt with it with my normal routine. I didn’t see
any abrupt change on the first 5-6 months but I am pretty sure that I am doing
the right thing. I avoided most of my dermatologist’s solutions since most of
the chemicals in it posted big risks to my baby’s development (ohhh.. the
sacrifices of a mother). Thus, I just maintain the usual Cetaphil face wash and
moisturizer (it should be oil-free) and I have also continued using my usual
make-up products such as foundation, concealer, bronzer, blush-on, highlighter,
and lipstick. Day-by-day was a horror but trust me, once the hormones subside
and as long as you keep your face clean and you drink plenty of water to keep
yourself hydrated, then it will naturally go away.
2. Warts and Varicose Veins Appearance
So this is another revelation that caught me off-guard on
this second pregnancy. I got shocked when I saw the appearance of warts on my
neck area (about 4-5 very very small thingy) and varicose veins on my legs. So
worried that I may not be able to wear shorts or skirts again, I checked out if
this is normal and if there is anything that I can do to take these out
immediately.
FACT: Warts are usually genetic and it may appear during
pregnancy due to change in hormones. Varicose veins (purple or blue) may appear
during pregnancy due to the weight that you have gained overtime that causes
pressure on your legs. As the amount of blood in your body increases, it adds
burden on your veins. Standing for a long period of time can also make you more
susceptible to varicose veins.
SOLUTION: Honestly, none. I am not doing anything with these
for now. But I am planning to see my dermatologist after I give birth. For now,
I just avoided standing for a long period of time, wearing heels, and I walk a
little bit to regulate the blood vessels in my legs and maintain a normal blood
flow all over my body. I read that after birth, varicose veins are most likely
to subside too. Warts, on the other hand, are easy to deal with. There are
over-the-counter solutions that you can DIY to take those out. I just wanted to
ensure that I’d seek professional help as the appearance of those are on my
neck (near to the face) that can cause visible scar if not dealt with well. So
moms out there, let us just keep the faith alive and sacrifice this 9- month of
ugliness for a lifetime of happiness in carrying, nurturing, and rearing a son
or a daughter.
3. Ear Itch/Ear Infection during Pregnancy
Ok.. so no doctor said that this is pregnancy-related, I
swear. I never thought so too, not until I googled it and saw that multiple
pregnant women all over the world experience the same thing that I was going
through. Honestly, this was the most terrible pain I have ever felt in my
entire pregnancy. Much worse than contractions! What happened was- there is
haze in Singapore.. a terrible and a long one.. I was on my 35 weeks of
pregnancy and I got allergic to it that caused me flu and cough. Ear Itch, for
me, can be pretty normal even when I wasn’t pregnant. The doctor told me that
too much cotton buds contact inside my ear can cause this to get dry and to
itch. Thus, I wasn’t so surprised when it happened to me at this stage. The
usual-stubborn thing I did was to get a cotton bud and once again, try to clear
my ears to ensure it won’t itch. I know it was a terrible itch, so apart from
cleaning the left ear, I know I created a friction inside. I slept and after 2
hours (1am), I felt the terrible pain inside my left ear that I couldn’t bear
it, that’s why hubby rushed me to the hospital. I first went to KKH (Women’s
and Children’s clinic) but they said that I should go to Tan Tok Seng instead,
as ear infection is not their specialization. So I had to transfer to TTS at
about 2am. After an hour, I was seen by a GP and told me that she saw that my
ear was inflamed but because it was too
painful she recommended that I see an EENT doctor to ensure that findings are
more precise and accurate. To ease the pain, she gave me paracetamol (2 tablets
3x a day) and CILOXAN (Ciplrofloxacin) good for both eyes and ears (2 drops of
the solution to the affected ear, 3x a day). I honestly do not want to drug my
princess but I have no choice because the pain is terrible and I was getting
more stressed out due to lack of sleep and heavy weeping. I was able to rest
after I took my medications and have decided to see the EENT doctor the next
day. They checked my ear and recommended that I take antibiotics. So the
stubborn mom who refused to further drug the baby didn’t follow the medication.
I had a follow-up check- up and the reason why I didn’t cancel the appointment
is because the left ear was really blocked and I was having an extreme migraine
on the left side of my head. I can hear something but not totally clear. So Doc
Natalie of EENT-TTS checked my ear and she found out that my ear was very clean
and no longer inflamed but she’d like to understand why I was having a blocked
ear. So she did a scan by inserting a tube inside my nose. Initially, I refuse
the spray to make my nose numb so the tube can enter with less pain. I tried it
without any drug on but I couldn’t bear the pain. Thus, I decided to take the
spray. It went inside and she said that due to the flu I have, the mucus is
affecting the nose and ear portion that is causing the blocked ear. Thus, she
recommended that I take and finish the course of anti-biotics. She guaranteed
that it is safe for my baby. And she also diagnosed that I wash and clean my
sinus using FLO SINUS CARE KIT. I did those and I was so happy that the
terrible migraine pain’s gone after 2 days but the blocked ear has subsided but
not completely as of yet.
FACT: It is ok to clean the ears with cotton buds but we
shouldn’t put it inside the ear that can irritate the skin and other parts of
the lobe. We can clean the outer-visible part of the ear about 3x a week but
the inside, we should not dig deep too much to avoid any dryness that can cause
ear itch or ear infection.
SOLUTION: Always, always, always seek professional help. An
EENT exists because they know exactly what to do. Although we really do not
want to drug the baby, think of it as a less stressful way of taking care of
the baby inside us by following the medications that the experts advise us to
do. So our body can produce happy hormones that can be healthier for our baby.
Avoid getting so much stress with unnecessary pain. When the mom is stressed,
then so as the baby. So let us protect our bodies, thoughts, and emotions so
the baby can be more secured and stress-free.
4. Minor Bleeding during the first trimester
So this episode freaks me out, right? I knew I was pregnant
so why the hell am I bleeding. Not too much but I saw 2x4 inches blood-wide on
my underwear. It is not continuous but I just happen to see when I went to the
restroom after my meeting. I recalled, I was on my 8th-10th week of pregnancy.
“Is it because of stress? Or probably because I was wearing heels?” So I try to
be the Ms. DIY and see if other moms out there experience the same thing.
FACT: “Spotting” or the light discharge of blood is common
during the first trimester. It is usually lighter in flow than a menstrual
period and the color varies from red to brown. It can be caused by Implantation
bleeding when the fertilized egg implants in our uterus. Some causes can be a
cervical polyp that can exist due to an increased number of blood vessels in
the tissue around the cervix during pregnancy or it can also post a serious
complication such as ectopic pregnancy (fertilized egg attaches itself in a
place other than inside the uterus).
SOLUTION: Though it exists and 20% of the pregnant women
usually experience this, we should not take this too lightly. Consult your
doctor if this happens continuously and/or if it happens multiple times. As for
me, since the bleeding stopped and it was few and it never recurred, I honestly
prayed very hard that nothing serious shall happen to my baby. After 3 weeks,
my scheduled appointment came and I told my OB about it. He checked the
heartbeat of my baby and he said it was strong. So thank God, nothing bad
happened to my princess.
5. Pre-Natal and Post-Natal Massage are both Ok to have
Growing up in a province has molded by mind not to entertain
any pinch or any type of massage as it can cause early contractions or
miscarriage. So during my 1st pregnancy, I never had any massage and was so
afraid to have one. After I gave birth to my son, hubby and I decided to go to
a spa and they refused to give me a massage as they’ve mentioned that they can
only do so after 6-months post-operation/ birth. So I believed them.. Then this
second baby came.. I was in a lot of stress and unbearable back pain. I
couldn’t help it and googled if I can have pre-natal massage and this is what I
found out:
FACT: Yes, you can have one or even both. But it should be
done by a professional, trained, and experienced Pre-natal masseuse. Every
pregnant woman deserves to be pampered after all; pregnancy is really hard to
deal with especially with the change in our bodies prepping us to carry a baby
inside our womb.
Pre Natal Massage reduces stress level and fatigue, reduces
back/hip pain, and improves digestion and blood circulation. It also reduces
the swelling of feet and ankles and it improves skin elasticity reducing the risk
of stretchmarks. In Singapore, there are multiple sites you can visit to do so:
www.mummybabycare.com.sg , http://www.babiesbellies.sg/Prenatal.php
Rates range from SGD60-SGD300++ depending on the kind of
package you want to take.
Post Natal massage, on the other hand, provides ease for
muscle tension, relief from stress, it also eliminates excess body fluids/water
retention, it improves sleep and it reinstates uterus to its original size.
Rates range from the same amount as Pre-Natal (SGD60-SGD300 depending on the
package). Both websites above offer Post-Natal massages too.
In case that you’d like to explore SPA & SAUNA in a
usual SPA Salon without the POST-NATAL branded massage, please consult your
doctor after 4-6 weeks of delivery so he/she can assess if your body is ready
to take the heat of the sauna and the stroke of the usual/normal massage.
SOLUTION: All Moms-to-be and mommies world-wide deserve all
the pampering that we can get. Almost a year of painstaking that no man would
understand (and I think, no man can bear..hahhaa) is not a joke. Although having a baby is extremely the
happiest moment in your family life, the truth is- carrying one and having one
is not a joke and it is not easy. Prepare yourself- body, mind, and spirit in
taking this journey. Anything that will ease your pain, anything that will not
make you regret, and anything that will make this episode in your life bearable
and enjoyable (of course with doc’s approval)- Go! Please take it. After all,
this is the essence of being a woman- being a happy and a beautiful mother. :)
6. SALON TIME: Hair Color and Nail Polish are allowed during
pregnancy
During my 1st pregnancy I never took any of these in my fear
of posting big risks to my baby. Besides the smell of it is really intolerable
so I opt out in doing so. I therefore conclude that my 9-month journey during
my 1st experience made me the ugliest pregnant alive. Hahaha..
Due to the nature of work I do, I have to look presentable
all the time, I started to ask questions to my OB and have also done a few
research about Salon time.
FACT: Hair color has minimal risk to the baby but no hair
color during the entire pregnancy, of course, has no risk at all. This is what
my OB told me. He mentioned that during the 1st trimester, baby is developing
so it is very crucial to avoid any harmful substances and ingredients that may
cause risk to the baby’s health. Although research shows that semi and
permanent hair dyes are safe for the babies and have less likelihood to be
absorbed by the skin, it is much better to wait for 2nd trimester to do so as
the developing baby is less vulnerable at this time. Nail polish on the other
hand is not absorbed into the skin. The smell of it can be bothering to the mom
so suggest that you wear a mask or do this in a well-ventilated area while is
it being put on as anything that can bother you may bother the baby too. Dying of
eyebrows and eyelashes are something that the doctors and the articles I have
read really stressed on NOT doing. This can cause infection to the eyes that
can be a risk for the baby.
SOLUTION: I personally had both of these but have never done
any hair straightening or perming while I am pregnant. What I did was to do
hair cellophane to change the color of my hair from blonde to black as I do not
want to go through it twice within 9 months.
Do these if you are comfortable. If not, then just don’t.
7. Frequent and Uncontrollable Urination during Pregnancy
So I know about the endless restroom moments where you spend
most of your time to pee than to sleep.. this I know since I was pregnant on my
first baby.. but the uncontrollable part happens on the second pregnancy. When
I sneeze, when I cough, pee comes out. As gross as it is and as much as I don’t
want to share with you, I want to let you know that if you experience this
funny and irritating moment, you are not alone, my friend. :)
FACT: Frequent urination happens due to the hormonal changes
that your body experience. It increases urine production as your uterus expands
and it presses your bladder. They said that this happens so much during the 1st
and 3rd trimester. But the 2nd trimester would be a relief. Honestly, it wasn’t
the same in my case. The frequency increases as the days go by. As the baby
drop lower in my pelvis in preparation for the delivery, it puts more pressure
on my bladder that even sneezing, coughing, and lifting something, causes me to
leak a little urine.
SOLUTION: I was advised to reduce my intake of fluids from
4pm onwards but I needed to make sure that before that timeframe, I was able to
take 6-8 glasses of water. I have also avoided any caffeinated beverage that
can dry me up and cause me to pee more and more. In my case, the 4pm liquid
cut-back didn’t work out. I feel so dehydrated and am having minor contractions
if I don’t take liquids. Thus, I just have to bear with the
more-pee-lesser-sleep episodes in the entire duration of my pregnancy. After
all, the sacrifice will be worth it once you see your munchkin all happy and
smiling.
8. Increase in Sex Drive during Pregnancy
So please don’t judge me or the other moms-to-be out there.
No one wishes for this to happen, except the fathers. Lol. Seriously, I have
noticed this already during my first pregnancy but ignored the drive and the
existence of the urge, not until it happened to me again on this 2nd pregnancy
so I have to check if this is really normal or it is just me. LOL.
FACT: Most women experience increase in sex drive due to the
hormonal changes- increase in estrogen and progesterone- that happen during
pregnancy. These sex hormones increase blood flow to the pelvic area and the
amount of lubrication down below. Breasts also become more sensitive so your
drive to make love could be fired up to the highest intensity and frequency.
SOLUTION: I was informed that during the first trimester,
sex is not allowed. That saddens me and my hubby since the drive is actually
higher during this time than in any pregnancy stage. The drive subsided on my
2nd trimester and went back on my 3rd.
Quick advice is- find a position that will not compromise your tummy,
sense of balance, and protection. Make sure that hubby knows that he needs to
take extra caution to avoid bleeding as you enjoy this moment together.
9. Constipation during Pregnancy
Ok, so this is another topic that most women would try to
avoid to share. But hey, this is part of growing a baby inside us and I’d say
another sacrifice that mothers take to bring a baby out of this world. I have
experienced the worst of this problem during my 1st pregnancy (during the 3rd
trimester actually) and on my 2nd pregnancy during the 1st trimester.
FACT: More than 50% of pregnant women experience
Constipation. This is caused by the hormone- progesterone that helps to relax
the muscle including the one in your digestive tract. This causes the food
pass-through to slow down. As the baby grows, the pressure on your rectum
continues so the constipation problem compounds each day.
SOLUTION: On my 1st pregnancy, I had no choice but to take
the pain of constipation and waited for the day of my delivery to ask for
drug-assisted method to clean my digestive tract. But on this 2nd pregnancy,
since it happened during the 1st trimester, I immediately shared this with my
OB and he has given me some medications and cure for my rectum in case it
becomes inflamed. I honestly, never took any and instead, I opted for the
natural methods. I increase my intake of fiber- Nesvita in Fairprice, Oatmeal
in the morning, 3 servings of fruits per day (apples and oranges for me), and
increase in water intake. Although these methods might have been heard many
times and may sound like cliché to solve the constipation issue, it really
works best for me and at this time- on my 3rd trimester- I barely experience
the difficult part of constipation and the pain that comes with it, anymore. I
wouldn’t deny and say that there was no effort when I get it out, there is
still. But there is no pain and no inflammation as what I have experienced on
my 1st pregnancy. So, God’s nature is still the best cure, I conclude.
10. No two pregnancies are the same
This is a FACT.
I thought that having a second child will put me in a better
position as I had my first already. I thought that it will be easier this time
since I had my experience and I was confident that I took the worst already.
Hahaha.. But I was so wrong. It was more of a 60%-40% where 60% is different
and 40% is the same. All the things mentioned herein posted the similarities
and the differences in the intensity and frequency of the things I've been
through (and going through as of writing..). The throwing up was excessive this
time. I literally have to vomit inside my Louis Vuitton bag to save my face
from messing up inside a train (really gross). How can I possibly throw an LV bag
right? So I got to have it professionally cleaned and paid SGD200 to save the
bag. I cry unstoppably at night due to the extreme pain at my back and pelvis
and the most painful leg cramps/RLS (Restless Leg Syndrome). All these I never
experienced with my first.
The SOLUTION is.
Pray, pray, pray.. that God gives you strength to take all
the punches of this experience and to lighten the load for you. I don’t mean to
sound spiritual here but this is the first thing that always pops into my head
whenever I feel discomfort. No doctor can answer the phone immediately and
magically remove the pain or discomfort you’re feeling right on spot. The only
thing left for you is to pray to your Creator who knows the tiniest bone and
vein in your body that can soothe and calm you. Next is- you’d need the support
of your husband. Sometimes, even if they won’t do anything; but by simply
having them by your side, holding you and calming you and letting you feel that
they are with you in this journey, helps a lot to ease the pain. My hubby
(sometimes voluntarily or forcefully, hahaha) massages my legs and back to make
me feel better almost every night. And I am just thankful that I have him to go
through this with me as the journey is never easy. He wouldn’t and can’t understand
even though he’d say “I understand the pain you’re going through”, but
honestly, only mom knows what it really feels like. Have a good support system
that begins with your husband. Talk to him and send him articles about
pregnancy so he won’t be shocked with the changes on your body and with your
moods. Both of you should be prepared to take this journey side-by-side. After
all, the start of parenthood begins at pregnancy and not after the child is
born. The 9-month journey happens for a reason. And that is to make you both
prepared to exercise patience, selflessness, and love.. the purest love of all.
Learn to share it with one another first so you can freely share the super
abounding feeling to your little ones.
All the best to your pregnancy, mommies!
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