A friend of mine called me just early this morning. She was telling me a none sense story about dirty-ebony girl who was formerly linked to her bf. She said that the girl even dedicated songs for her bf , “Waiting for you” and “Tears in my guitar”. She even went to the beach with her bf's family before although the family doesn't even like her. Her bf's sister even mentioned that she knew what type of girl she is because she never exude class or sophistication. She asked her bf why this girl was being linked to him and her bf said:
“Naawa lang talaga ako 'dun kasi may sinabi syang secret sakin. I find it pathetic nga for her to tell me that, eh we're not that close pa naman. 'Nu ka ba, I have never thought of her as a future girl friend. 'Di ganun type ko. Besides, i just broke up with my long time gf 'nun and she made herself available. You know how guys can be, 'di ba?”
My friend responded, “You're crazy naman to believe her, she just used that for her to get your sympathy and for you not to leave her.”
REACTION: Although this is a demented story, ideas just came by..these are over-flowing and I can't stop myself from writing. I know my friend so well, she's currently on a vacation and she's doing nothing that' why she has spared time to tell me bizaare stories, just like this. I told her to continue editing corporate websites because this was the first time I heard her mentioned this, although the issue existed 50 years ago.
ADVICES:
FOR MY FRIEND: Girl, I know you since birth and you trash issues like this. If she spends time writing about you and your bf then it's publicity for both of you. This obsessive story existed before and you just laughed about it and her, remember? Her level is far lower than yours. She can't even speak straight English (as said) and you're too professional. She's a kid, an obsessed girl, that's why she keeps on telling tragic stories to whoever, thinking that she can get someone else's sympathy. We both pity her. I mean, the girl lacks attention, fashion, and sophistication-- give it to her, girl.
FOR THE BF: Learn your lesson from this. Anything over doesn't do you any better. Being too nice brought you in this craze. It's not bad to pity her. You cared for her when you brainlessly believed her. But because, you don't know how to say “No”, your politeness letd you to making her believe that what you've shown her is more than friendship. When you spend time with someone, make sure its worth it. Besides, you need to take care of your health. When you become intimate with someone, learn to protect yourself. You wouldn't know if she's clean or not. I mean, as everyone in her department knows that she's playing too close with guys. You can't assure yourself that she's still clean, or any other girls you've been with. If the tragic story was true, she might've gotten an illness that might've been passed on to you. Better have yourself checked up. Also, do not get the strength to move on from any other girl/s, this can be the fastest but the lamest! DIY (Do It Yourself). Spend time to think what went wrong and work on your weaknesses. After all, it's all for your own good.
FOR THE GIRL: I know how it feels when you thought and believed that someone loves you and one day it turned out that he's in love with someone not you. Painful as it may seem, but this should be a lesson to ponder. Do not entrust yourself and do not get intimate with someone who's not your bf. Having an F buddy is not a good and healthy thing for us, girls. When you really love someone, you'll feel happy for him even if it causes you pain. Noble? Yes, loving in nature is indeed noble. Yet, you might've did it conditionally that's why you're at pain and you feel hatred.
Girl, it's time to re-structure your focus and priorities. I mean, do not put him or her nor them on the center of your life. The mere fact that you feel something (may it be hate, jealousy, insecurity or bitterness) means that you're still not over the entire situation. If my friend feels indifference for you, then you should do the same. Pretend that they both don't exist. Live your life to the fullest and stop blaming anyone for the choices you made when you were in love. After all, the pain you feel is the consequence of the choices you've made. You chose to be a best friend, you chose to be intimate, you chose not to commit, you chose to tell him a secret, you chose to divulge a private story (which supposedly is only to be shared to a future husband, when already enggaged) and you chose to dwell in pain instead of moving on. They're already happy and you're still stuck to hating both of them, can't you see that? I am all for woman, you know. Woman should be smart enough nowadays not to feel abused and deceived. We get all the rights that men do, all the more that we should not feel inferior. You're young and you need to get through this stage to learn, not to invest anger and revenge. Thank him and HIM for making you feel that way because with this opportunity, you learn how to be a better-grown-up person you never thought you would (hopefully). Thank you for also reading this blog- that you understood how things are being dealt with.
Hope we all learn a lot from this.. 'Till the next bloggin'!
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