Daily interaction and communication with different people at various encounters brought forth the meaning of my days. Would you believe if I say that there are times that you get the answers from kids, from beggars, from cab drivers, from everyday faces-- people whom you never expected resolutions to come from. I had been talking with these people since I arrived in Singapore. I never find conversing with them exciting not until I reflect on the meaning and significance. I am used to liasing with Pastor Henry, Tita Detch, Tito Ferdie, Kuya Odelon, Vince (Jay's best friend), and even Jay, himself (well, almost everyday of my life, I do).
Just to share a few..
One of the initial stages of moving on is forgiving yourself.
I agree with Vince's statement entirely. How can you ask forgiveness if you haven't acknowledged that you've sinned against someone? Acknowledgement of your wrong doings is a form of humility. The measure of wrong-doing is based on the actions that hurt God. Asking God's forgiveness is more important than anybody's absolution. Take the courage of asking forgiveness from your self first. If you believe that you've sinned, repented and had forgiven yourself, then sincerity of your apologies can be well delivered. After all, one can't successfully move forward if he/she carries regrets deep within.
Your treasure is where your heart is.
This has been told many times and I have read the same recurrently. Jay mentioned this at the same time that I never thought I would need such. Whatever occupies your time, your efforts, your money, your wealth is marked as “IMPORTANT” and is considered your treasure. Have you asked yourself lately of what is one thing you treasure the most? Is it your family?Is it your relationship?Is it your job? Whatever or whoever that or he may be is where your heart and life lay.
Christianity is a daily battle. You're only as strong as your last victory.
Tita Detch's right when she said this. We are faced with challenges, temptations and options every day of our lives. We sometimes wouldn't know if we had already overcame some or if we had chosen the right option. We need God's guidance even on the simplest challenge that requires choices. Problems are sometimes defined by the previous choices we made. The option we chose to resolve today's problem may not be the right solution for tomorrow's. We need to re-charge. We need fuel. WE can only do such by asking HIS divine providence to interject in our daily decisions.
If you believe that you are a child of God, you don't need to worry.
Vague as it may seem, but Pastor Henry's credible. He's a father to three (3) kids. He made me understand that God, as a Father, knows what His children needs. He even said, “I know that my kids need food, water, clothing and shelter and I have provided those for them, how more can God, the Father, who created and owned the heaven and the earth won't?”
Distance makes your heart grows fonder but also makes your gap grows farther.
Couples who chose to live apart gambled their selves and their relationship. History's being created individually. You no longer share the same chronicle. You become surprised of how your partner becomes and he is too with you. You get to the questions of “since when” and “what made you that way”, yet everything boils down to individual responses to singular fights and battles. If it can be made possible, then be together. Fight challenges together. Grow in love and in God together. Be there, at all times, for one another.
Don't get too much busy with the kingdom, where you don't already have time for the King.
The best gift that we can give our loved ones are time and attention. I remembered my Aunt in the Philippines uttering these words: “The only help that I can provide for mom and dad is my presence”. Yet, my Aunt in Canada replied: “Ate Mar, that is the most important thing, that if given a choice, I would love to do the same. I can only provide money for mom and dad but I can't be there. But you.. you've shown them how it is to be taken cared of by their child and as a mother, I can say that's priceless.” Same goes with relationships, husbands can be too busy with work to earn a living for his family but he has already sacrificed his bonding with his wife and kids. Time is still the most priceless possession a person can ever get.
Chinese are not rich because of being thrifty but because of industry.
On my way at home, I talked to a Chinese cab driver who shared this statement. He said that he's rich in his own standards of richness because he can buy whatever he wants and he's happy. He has five (5) kids who are all Degree Holders (lawyer, accountant, pilot, doctor, and a nurse). I asked him why does he still work considering that his kids can just take care of his needs? He said, “Here in Singapore, people die if we won't work. Cost of living's high. It is not in our custom to ask money from our kids. We work for ourselves and not for anyone else.” He even mentioned that Chinese are not stingy. They just prioritize their spendings. They become rich because they know what focus and hardwork really are. Combining industry and strategy is one of their keys to being wealthy.
The problems you face today is only a tenth of the pixelled picture you have of the world's.
Our problems, heartaches, and troubles are not the things that define who we should be. Our responses should. Do not focus on the problem, focus on the solutions as what Kuya Odelon said. Always remember that we are not designed to be defeated. We are designed by God to be a winner. If we get hurt and we get emotionally impaired, we can win the same battle if we still move on and find healing with HIM. Your entire life is not the cost of the problem you face today. Spending too much time dwelling on your problem is being selfish, after all. The world got bigger problems. Various people has problems too; but they know how to carry their roles well. If you're injured as a wife, then don't be the same as a mother. After all, life's a roller coaster. As you had your fair share of triumphs, you'd also have your piece of opportunities. It's a matter of choice whether you'd like to be called a conqueror or you prefer to live a life of a loser.
Taking these advices helped me re-build my life and my perspectives as a winner and as a believer. I hope that you have reflected on those, too.
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